According to my daughter, life revolves around pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. There is not much else that really matters in life. She loves nothing more than to drop off placenta pills, as long as she is guaranteed a quick peek at the new baby. If nothing else, she will settle to simply learn that new baby’s name.
For the record, I don’t think every doula’s kiddos are really into the “birthy” stuff. I am sure a lot of doula’s children are grossed out, unaware, or uninterested. Mine? Together, we eat, sleep, and breathe it. She’s very much a “doula’s daughter.”
Birth and breasts are usually at the very center of playtime. If we aren’t playing, she is drawing masterpiece after masterpiece of mother holding child, mother with a baby in a sling, mother talking to midwife, mother pushing double stroller, etc.
You have No. Idea.
The other day in the car, we played La Leche League.* How do you play that? Okay--well one person is the leader and the other person pretends to be the moms.
Today, I was the leader, so I started off the meeting as such:
“Hi! Welcome to La Leche League. My name is Stephanie and I am one of the leaders. Let’s all go around and
say our name, our children’s names and ages, and let us know if you have anything that you need support with
Clio takes a deep breath and begins:
“I’m just done! I can’t do it anymore. I don’t want to nurse. But. . . I can’t wean her! She’s only 8 months! She’s
just a baby!”
Ah yes, the ol’ “just done” but “can’t wean” scenario. I know this one. So I respond,
“Well, what are you doing for self-care? Do you have any time for yourself?”
And my mini-me goes,
“I go to Women’s Circles. . . I am on a sugar cleanse. . .I’ve tried everything! Nothing
Today this little mama turns 4. Of course, she may not always be a “little mama” and a “doula’s daughter” and surely she won’t remember how we played La Leche League and imagined we were mothers with lots and lots of babies. But the imprint of her experience today is everlasting.
And because of her experience she will deeply know that mothering is important and that the world really does revolve around the birthing and raising of a new being.
I love you, my sweet, wild and wise child. You are and will always be my teacher.
*La Leche League International is a mother-to-mother support group for breastfeeding women. You can find your local LLL group online. I am a La Leche League Leader for the Naperville, IL chapter.